Recent events have triggered so many thoughts in my head that, as one who processes through the written word, the line of thoughts begging to be released has dissolved into an unruly mob threatening to roil out in a primal yawp. The alternative is to remain silent, and I’ve done that for long enough.
I’m going to try to rein in my thoughts and corral them into
something manageable and hopefully, useful.
The best words are those that reach into the mayhem of thoughts and
emotions and pull out solid truths that you can work with and build on.
The year of 2020 has been a doozy, to say the least. Since
it’s been a minute since I last posted on this blog, let me do a quick
catch-up. This year, I added a sixth
child to our family, a little girl named Anthem Reverie, and our brood is
rounded out nicely with a girl on either end of our 4 boys. Kyle jumped career
tracks to start his own design firm, Stature, after 20 years with
StoneWard. He now works from home while
I continue to homeschool the kids and work on a contract basis for DD&F
Consulting Group. We are also plugging
along on our project list for our old house, in case you thought that project
was complete. Not quite.
And that’s about all on the home front. The rest of the
world, well, it really needs no re-hash. We’ve been living it, or attempting
to, rather. As I write these words, it’s the Sunday after election week. The
trees outside my window are ablaze with yellow leaves, the ever-present sounds
of sirens filter through the solid plaster walls of my house, and inside, it’s
remarkably quiet because Kyle has taken the kids to run around the park.
Which leaves me with you and my thoughts. My thoughts are
heavy because the times are heavy. I honestly don’t know a single person who is
feeling particularly carefree about the state of the world right now, so you
might be feeling pretty heavy too.
In which case, let’s dive in. If you don’t already know this about me, I am
a follower of Christ. I’m not Catholic, Baptist, Jewish or any other
“denomination.” A faith in God does not need to be attached to a denomination.
As such, I have always attended a non-denominational Bible-based church, and at
the core of everything in my life is an unwavering faith in God and a clear
understanding that I am inherently a sinner.
Broken. Flawed. I believe there
is one, true God – who is a trinity, three in one: God the Father, God the Son
(Jesus Christ) and God the Holy Spirit – and He created everything, including
humans. Rather than making automatons who had no ability to choose their
actions, He created us with free will. The ability to see, read, analyze and
choose for ourselves.
That free will very quickly led to a situation in which the
first humans were presented with the opportunity to choose between obeying clear
instructions from God or blatantly disregarding those instructions. They chose
to blatantly disregard the instructions, and instantly set into motion a chain
of events, beginning with an immediate recognition that something had changed,
and not for the better. Something was wrong.
If you have children, you know the state of willful
disobedience shows up rather early, and even though a baby may not be able to
articulate what was wrong about their actions, they know something was. It’s
written all over their face. Or in the way they immediately hide from you.
A parent has an almost sixth sense when this is going down
and is able to show up on the scene pretty quickly. Unlike parents, God knew in
advance that Adam and Eve would sin, and He, too, arrived on the scene in short
order. After addressing the sin, he laid
out the consequence which was gut-wrenching in its impact.
Essentially, it was separation and death. Separation from
God (which equates to a spiritual death) and a removal from the Garden of Eden
plus the reality of an eventual physical death.
The consequences of their sin, because sin is what disobedience against God
is, may seem harsh to you.
Why the separation from God? Well, God is holy and cannot
tolerate sin. It’s like paper in the presence of fire. The fire will consume
paper. God’s holiness is a consuming fire. His kicking them out of the garden
was actually a kindness to them, because had they stayed inside it, they would
have been able to grab fruit from the Tree of Life, eat it and live forever in
a state of permanent separation from Him.
Why death? Because the consequence of sin is death. Again,
this may seem harsh, but when you’re dealing with absolute holiness, its
opposite is also extreme. And when you
create the universe, you get to set the rules.
Although God dealt with the sin and doled out judgment, he
also revealed a long-range plan to ultimately provide a complete restoration of
the broken relationship between God and his created mankind through a Savior. A
death that would cover the sins of all who chose to believe in Him. How could
that be? Because the one who died would also be the only person to completely
fulfill God’s requirements of perfect righteousness and sinlessness. God the
Father sent his son, Jesus, to the earth to be born of a virgin, Mary. He lived a righteous, sinless life, was the
fulfilment of all prophecy of the Messiah, and then was so hated by the Jewish
religious rulers of his day that they trumped up a host of false charges
against him and crucified him.
As gruesome of a death as crucifixion was, what happened to
Jesus was even more gruesome. He had,
heaped upon him on the cross, the sins of those who would believe on Him. The
full list of all sins ever committed and to be committed was attributed to him,
although he had never committed a single sin. He took on all the guilt, died
for it in a particularly horrifying manner and received the full unleashing of
God’s wrath on sin…on Himself…so that the full burden of consequence could be
absorbed in him with his death. He was the sacrificial Lamb of God who took
away the sins of the world.
Just when His enemies thought they’d gotten rid of their
biggest problem, he rose from the dead 3 days later, again, fulfilling
prophecy. Most importantly, he defeated
the death that had been hanging over us all since that first sin.
His death and most importantly, his resurrection, became the
cornerstone of our hope. Of the faith of all who believe that Jesus was the Son
of God who came to take away the sins of the world.
The facts I just have just shared not only give hope to a
world that desperately needs it, but they give context to what I feel needs to
be said next.
The hope is that
although humanity is inherently flawed and will continue to sin, we are not
stuck in that position. We have the hope that God will forgive our sins if we
repent and put our faith in Christ alone. If we confess our sins, He is
faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and cleanse us from all
unrighteousness. That, it is by grace
you have been saved, through faith – and this is not from yourselves - it is
the gift of God, not by works, so that no man can boast.
The Bible says we have this hope as an anchor for our souls,
firm and secure. These are certainly times when I am happy to have an anchor
for my soul because there are two types of people in the world: those who have
that hope and those who do not. The Bible says in Romans 10:9-10 that “if you
declare with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord” and believe in your heart that God has
raised him from the dead, you will be saved. For it is with your heart that you
believe and are justified, and it is with your mouth that you profess your
faith and are saved.”
If you have this hope, then this has several practical
implications for you: 1) your hope should never rest upon a government or a
political party or any person other than Jesus Christ; and 2) the word of Hope
(the Bible) should be the standard by which all truth is measured.
These are dark days, my friends. Days when our enemy, the
devil, prowls about like a roaring lion seeking whom he may devour. If you
sense that something more has been brewing in our world through all the
COVID-19 mess, the social justice movement, the political unrest, then you’re
right. The Bible tells us quite plainly that we are in the midst of a spiritual
battle. If you have no knowledge of God’s word, then you either won’t know or
won’t care, but you’ll still feel the effect of it.
My desire is that rather than feel despair or fear, you will
know that there is hope to be found in the good news that Jesus Christ has
provided a way of salvation for you. A
true, lasting salvation – something far superior than any pending vaccine or
mask or social distancing plan, any government program, loan or movement. In fact, all the other things are just placebos
which do absolutely nothing to alter the state of brokenness in the world. The brokenness in you.
My desire is also that if you read this, and you’re a woman,
that you pause for a moment and give some serious thought to another issue.
Feminism. Interestingly, this is an issue that has its roots back in that
original sin mentioned earlier. I didn’t identify who it was that first made a
choice to disregard God’s commands, but it was Eve. She was deceived by Satan,
and she chose against what God had told her to do. Adam happened to be right
there with her, and he chose poorly too. The Bible says, Adam sinned.
When God created man and woman, they were perfect, without
flaw. But at the moment of sin and in
connection with God’s punishment (curses, actually), new tendencies emerged. For
women, it emerged as a tendency to jump in and handle things; For men, a tendency
toward passivity, to letting the women handle it for them. It’s often just
easier. This is obviously a generalization,
but I’m not too far off because God’s response was to tell Eve that her desire
would be for her husband and he would rule over her.
I can see your hackles raising up, but just hold on a
dadburn minute. That doesn’t mean, literally RULING over her. But it does mean
that women were going to have to fight the desire to control everything,
particularly men, because that was not God’s design. In fact, God’s design was
going to propel men to assume more of an active role than a passive role,
particularly in the family.
In the way that God has of confounding our expectations and
of doing things in a completely different way than we would, God knew that,
after the Fall, men would be faced with the temptation to be passive. Women
would be faced with the temptation to boss and assume leadership over their
husbands, yet God’s plan for them was to back off and give their husbands the
opportunity to be the men God desired for them to be.
Before you assume this is some hegemony and patriarchal
master/slave relationship, you should first understand that God defines a
husband’s role as parallel to that of Christ – and Christ died for the church.
He gives wives the role of the Church – the bride of Christ. In no way was God asking husbands to do
anything other than seek the best for their wives, at the cost of their lives,
if necessary. If you’re not sure about
that, please look more into it.
Since those first days in the Garden, Satan has had it out
for Eve. For women. It should be noted that Satan really has it out for God and
desires to cause as much pain and destruction to men and women because he knows
how much God loves us. Women are just the target I’m particularly addressing
right now.
Satan targeted Eve’s desire for knowledge and equality with
God from the beginning. He challenged her understanding of God’s instructions
and asked if, in fact, what God really wanted to do was to hold her back. Keep
her from her full potential, essentially.
The temptation to desire equality with God, and anyone else, continues
to be put forward by Satan. Devious
though he may be, creative he is NOT. And why should he get terribly creative
when we women take the hook time and again?
I include myself in this accusation.
Understand me clearly here, my fellow women. There is never, at any point in Scripture,
any hint or allegation that women are not intelligent, capable creatures. There are direct references to physical
differences between us and men that do exist. They are not constructs. They are
biological in nature, like it or not. Very few of us can bench press as much as
men, and why is that not ok? We were made in the image of God, is that not good
enough? It ought to be.
Every time the message from the world is that we need to be
better than men, or that we ARE better than men and it’s time to prove it….what
we as believers ought to do is pause for half a second and run that line
through our memory. It’s just a twist on Satan’s original lie: you are being
told you’re not good enough…you’re being held back from your full potential by
God…by Man…..so prove it that you’re really not just as good, but better.
Rather than taking the bait, back up and reassess. If you think God gave us the raw end of the
stick by making us women, then consider that women are given the incomparable
gift of bringing new human life into the world. We are tasked with the
unbelievably precious responsibility of raising our children, and that is a
HUGE thing. (The proof is 1 Tim 2:15). Throughout the Bible, God further
demonstrates the value He places on women – a woman served as a judge for the
children of Israel (this was a responsibility of great importance, before
Israel ever had kings); he chose a woman to give birth to his son, Jesus; many
women were key in the early church…I could go on and on. The point is, God is not diminishing the
value of women.
Feminism, on the other hand, does diminish the value of
women. It does so by placing more of a
burden on women than God ever intended for anyone to have. It attempts to strip us of what makes us
women. Feminism posits that not only are women equal to men in all areas, but
we can do it all. And should do it all. And men should do nothing. Because we
do it better. Talk to any woman who thinks she’s doing it all, and she’ll tell
you she isn’t. Or she isn’t doing it all well. Or she’s pretending.
The pervasive lie women believe is that a strong woman is a
woman who breaks barriers and bests men.
As a woman who could reasonably called “strong” and “strong of will” and
ambitious and type-A, and all those other qualities which women are encouraged
to exhibit and forge ahead with – I can honestly tell you that I have wrestled
not with any messaging from the world, but from my own desires for
success. To do it all. And I can also
tell you that it’s not possible.
Hear me quite clearly on this: the Bible does not say women
are supposed to just sit at home, pop out babies and keep the meals coming. Although,
for married women with children, there is no greater calling than raising your
family. But if you have never read
Proverbs 31:10-31, do so. The passage
describes a woman who is quite unbelievable in her capacity. She is equal parts
mother, business-woman, wife, friend… She is generous, kind, hospitable,
capable, strong, faithful, wise, industrious, praised by her children and her
husband, and most of all, she is GODLY. THIS is a woman worth lauding and holding up
as our standard. She fears the Lord. This is key.
Too many women right now in our society, even believing
women, have been sucked into the mentality that women are being oppressed and
must therefore, assert themselves as more than an oppressed party – at all
costs, at any cost. Too many women
right now are seeking to hold up high some version of a standard that
represents overcoming that oppression – breaking those barriers. And the
Biden/Harris political ticket has given you a chance to do just that – by
proclaiming victory for all women everywhere in the form of Kamala Harris.
As a believer, I call you out on that right now. Not because
I have any issue with a woman aspiring to the position of Vice President or
President, but because of the values she upholds. There is nothing wrong with achievement,
accomplishment, holding office or sitting on the Supreme Court. I would never
disparage a woman because she was successful or accomplished.
As believing women, we should never place more value on
women holding positions of power than we do on the values held by the women
themselves. The values of your standard are far more important.
If you are seeking a standard – then look to Proverbs 31. Do
not accept as your standard anything less than the standard God sets for you.
Further, consider the wisdom of aligning with the feminist movement at
all. It is a movement built upon a lie,
a deception, a ploy, the whisper that you’ve never been recognized as you
should have been…that you’re being held back….
This movement will never elevate women in a satisfactory way
because it’s rooted in a mistruth. God
is not suppressing you. He has created women with incredible value and capacity
(see Prov 31; and consider the fact that they’re made in His image). He
designed you for a role that will both satisfy, challenge and uplift you. The feminist movement historically has done
the opposite. It has raised the bar to an unsustainable level, stripped women
of any of their natural gifts, mocked their innate desires as insufficient and
set the task of being all but a god yourself. That was never God’s intent for
women. Or men.
There has never been a more critical moment to view the
present circumstances through the lens of a godly worldview. There is an agenda
in the works that goes deeper than socialism or communism. It is an agenda
designed to destroy the very foundations God set up for our good – and I’m
referring to something deeper than politics.
I realize these are challenging times for everyone, particularly those seeking to follow Christ. But do not grow weary in doing good or proclaiming the truth. Test all things by the Holy Spirit. Do not glibly raise a banner if it is not worthy of the throne, and do not place your faith and hope in a system that will never fix the brokenness of this world. Only God can do that.